I'm sure everyone has wanked at least once in their lives. If not everyone, a great majority of people. I mean what do you do when you're laying in bed and your so turned on, you are still a virgin and your body is raging with hormomes? You rub one out (or off)? People don't talk about it, but they do it.
I love wanking; I have been doing it for many years, at least once a week, but most times three or four times a week. I started when I was about 13. I remember being alone at home, watching some movie. I got a hard on for some reason (I probably saw a chick on TV, remember, I was 13) and stroked my dick because it felt good. The more I stroked, the nicer it felt and the faster I stroked. And then, I ejaculated for the very first time, it was incredible and at the same time felt so weird! From that day I wanked as much as possible.
If you read my post about watching porn, you'd know that I discovered porn at a young age. When I could eventually wank, I wanked so much to porn that my balls were literally sore. I'd come probably 5 times in a row! Fuck, what I'd give to still be able to do that! Unfortunatley I did not have much access to porn (it was the 80s and porn was illegal in South Africa then) so I'd store porn images for access during subsequent wanks. I still use some of those images to this day!
I also discovered that there were different types of wanks. Wanks to porn felt different to wanks to images in my head or to nudie pics. To this day porn has an effect on my orgasm - having sex or wanking while watching porn results in a much more intense orgasm. I also discovered the wonders of wanking with lube - at first I used body lotion, but later discovered water-based lube. I am uncircumsised so when I wank without lube, I keep the forskin over my very sensitive head. But when I wank with lube then I pull back my foreskin and the stimulation of my lubricated hand over my cock head is just incredible and results in an extremely intense orgasm; so intense that I don't do it very often. I recently discovered anal play. Stimulation of the prostate (which is up your anus) while you wank or have sex results in incredibly intense orgasms; once again I only do this once in a while.
My wife has seen me wank - several times. Early on in our relationship, if I didn't have condoms, we would practise coitus interruptus - extracting the penis just before ejaculation. Very often I would extract too soon and would have to wank to finish off. My wife quite enjoyed this and watched with the greatest of interest. One or two times I have even masturbated for her, from start to finish, while she watched. I find it quite hot; I must be somewhat of an exhibitionist. She also finds it quite hot.
Even then, my wife and I do not talk openly about wanking. It appears as if she had masturbated as a teenager; she once told me she used to masturbate while in the bath - but she's pretty shy about it. She knows I used to wank a lot as a teenager. She has joked about me wanking on my own, for instance she'd jokingly tell me to stop waanking in the toilet, but I have never denied, nor confirmed it. Maybe one day we can be open about it. I would have no problem if my wife wanked; she has a dildo and a vib that I got her, but as far as I know, wehave only used them together.
That brings me to why most people don't like their lovers wanking; it brings up issues of insecurity. Am I not enough? Don't I please my partner? Who does he/she think about while wanking? Well, I have a much higher sex drive than my wife, so as a compromise, I wank. I could also screw other women. But I don't do that, I'm a one woman guy. And the issue of who do I think about/fantasise about when I wank? Well, it should not be an issue, because it's a fantasy just to help get you off. When I wank I sometimes use porn, but mostly I use the stored fantasies/images in my head. Inspiration for my wank fantasies are my wife (she has given me many many wank fantasies!), attractive women I know, past lovers, erotica and of course porn. I must admit that I almost never fantasise about other women or porn when I have sex with my wife; she is enough of a turn on to get me off. I may have fatasised about someone else being with us as in a threesome, but I don't imagine my wife is someone else.
Have I ever been caught wanking? Yes, once, by my brother, but he was verty cool about it. He made as if nothing happened and never takled about it.
So, I enjoy wanking, it does not affect my sex life, my work, in fact it allows me to last longer for my wife. So wank away those blues!
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